You’re Just My Type
By Laurie Foley
“You need to get out and play.”
“You need to sit down and be quiet.”
Which were you told as a child?Either way, you were just a kid, being a kid. But somehow, you might have gotten the idea that something was wrong with you. The truth is more likely that you bumped into your Oppovert, a handy name I have for a person who has a personality type opposite yours. For example, if you are an introvert, then your Oppovert is an extrovert. Or vice versa.
Oppoverts are nothing but trouble when you are a kid, especially if they have it in mind to teach you to conform.
Imagine if you are right-handed and a teacher comes along and says that you should really write with your left hand—just because that’s how she does it. You could do it but it would feel totally unnatural. Oppoverts often view you with suspicion because they want you to do what is natural for them.
No wonder it takes a lifetime to unlearn our childhood.
Imagine instead a world where you encounter many, many more of your Identiverts: people who have the same preference as you for introversion or extroversion. If you are immersed in a book, they step quietly around you.
They would never interrupt you. If you’re leaving the third party of the night, they will say, “Where do you want to go next?”
This isn’t a call for homogeneous societies. No, not at all. It is simply an invitation to let go of every Oppovert experience that made you feel like you were anything less than the exotic, wildly interesting, deeply unique soul that you are.
Their Oppovert goggles may have blinded them, but that doesn’t mean that you weren’t shining. You were—and you are.
Your Prompt for This Week
LAURIE FOLEY is a business coach and blogger, who specializes in brand strategy that blends archetypal awareness and brand intuition. Her blog is about finding one’s natural brand as well as the inner journey of entrepreneurship. She also created and teaches Blog More, Stress Less to help other coaches create effective and sustainable blogs.
Laurie Foley says:
If you had had just one advocate as a child who was your Identivert, what would have been different? What would you have continued or tried?
Lisa says: i would have become madonna around the good healthy age of 5! ahahahha!
If you had a chronic Oppovert in your life at some point, what did they often say to you?
To stay put. To be carefull.
What is the opposite of that sentence and what would you do right now when you feel that opposite-but-true-for-you version down to your bones?
To move it! Take big risks. Put all my eggs in one basket and plan my success party!
If you know a child who is your Identivert, what do you want to say to her?
can we be friends?
Find her at Branding From the Inside Out or @lauriefoley.
Actionable Idea for This Week
This is one of the exercises I crafted for you this week.
DO and WRITE: Describe Your Personality Type
Visit the Human Metrics website and take the free Jung Typology Test http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTypes2.asp to discover your Myers-Briggs personality type. Then read the description related to your personality profile.
Wow! just took this fun test. this was shocking. my personality profile is totally coherent with my wild, energetic, creative self. i scored a champion ENFP which is about 4 to 8 percent of the population:
heres what is says:
- E – Extraversion preferred to introversion: ENFPs often feel motivated by their interaction with people. They tend to enjoy a wide circle of acquaintances, and they gain energy in social situations (whereas introverts expend energy).
- N – Intuition preferred to sensing: ENFPs tend to be more abstract than concrete. They focus their attention on the big picture rather than the details, and on future possibilities rather than immediate realities.
- F – Feeling preferred to thinking: ENFPs tend to value personal considerations above objective criteria. When making decisions, they often give more weight to social implications than to logic.[9
- P – Perception preferred to judgment: ENFPs tend to withhold judgment and delay important decisions, preferring to “keep their options open” should circumstances change.
ENFPs are initiators of change, keenly perceptive of possibilities. They energize and stimulate others through their contagious enthusiasm. They prefer the start-up phase of a project or relationship, and are tireless in the pursuit of new-found interests. ENFPs are able to anticipate the needs of others and to offer them needed help and appreciation. They bring zest, joy, liveliness, and fun to all aspects of their lives. They are at their best in fluid situations that allow them to express their creativity and use their charisma. They tend to idealize people, and can be disappointed when reality fails to fulfill their expectations. They are easily frustrated if a project requires a great deal of follow-up or attention to detail.
Champions delight in novelty. They are optimistic, enthusiastic, and vivacious, craving expressions of strong emotion. With a dramatic flair, they share their experiences with others, hoping to reveal some universal truth or win others over in support of a cause. Attuned to possibilities, Champions scan their environment, probing the emotions, needs, and motivations of others. This sensitivity sometimes conflicts with their intense drive for personal authenticity. Spontaneous and personable, they attract others to their company.
cool hey! this was fun and usefull! a new perspective on ourselves is always usefull! lets open up the windows and let something new about ourselves light up the room!